How to talk about sex with your kids?
A little Introduction
Talking about Sex with your kids may not seem to be an easy idea, but it’s very important — and it’s never too early to start with your little ones. Your easy opening to this topic can help them make healthy choices as they grow up and also create a sense of comfort and openness when it comes to discussing these serious matters at times.
It may be hard to understand or figure out where to start, especially when your parents didn’t talk to you about sex while growing up and to be honest there are still complications in some families when it comes to discussing this topic. I am here to make it a little easy-peasy for you, hopefully, it will help you all and if you face any challenges feel free to reach out to me.
When you face certain situations what do you say?
Kids might have different questions about sex at different phases. As your child gets older, the things you talk about will change, you should remember to:
- Talk early and often, if you introduce basics and tender age, the innocent mind will process the knowledge with innocence, hence later in life the child won’t feel the desperate need to understand sex with the help of porn — and you don’t have to fit everything into 1 conversation, take baby steps with them.
- Be ready to answer questions, hiding the basic fact of gender evaluation will lead to problems for the little mind — also, children’s questions can tell you a lot about what they already know, accept it and explain with proper choice of words.
- Let your child speak, listen carefully to your kids’ opinions, even if you don’t agree, it will help them feel that you are listening and then trying to clear things for them.
- Everything is open on television nowadays, try using things that come up on TV to start a conversation and explain them nicely, for example when you see a commercial for tampons or menstrual cups don’t tell them that these are substitutes for diapers instead explain to them that to give a new life every woman has to grow eggs and if she does not want to make a baby with it the egg bleeds out of the body and the blood is just the food for the upcoming baby. Trust me, the child will process this information and respect fact that you explained it to them, I did try this out, you can share your experiences with me too.
- Most importantly, be honest about how you’re feeling with your child — for example, if you’re in a public place with strangers and you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable, let them know that you feel shy talking about this topic and you promise to tell them after you are with them alone, and when you get a chance do that, it will help them understand the value of personal space and which topics should be discussed personally, so they will know how to ignore if someone else tries to get into that personal space and inform you about the same.
You might think that will talking to kids make a difference?
Parents are the first influencers for the kids and play a very important role in their decisions about sex and relationships — even more important than friends, siblings, or any media. Most kids say in their later life that it would be easier to make decisions about sex and relationships if they could talk freely and honestly with their parents.
Genuine Fact!
Teenagers who talk with their parents about sex are more likely to put off having sex until they’re older, they understand its value rather than grow the urge to experience something new. They also understand the importance of making healthy choices, like using condoms to prevent pregnancy and STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), if they do choose to have sex.
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